Sometimes it can be difficult to stay positive, especially if our world is filled with insecurity and fear. Fear is a necessary and imperative response to emotional and physical danger. In fact, if we didn’t experience fear, we would not be able to protect ourselves from genuine threats. When we experience fear, whether perceived or real, we activate our ‘fight or flight’ reaction. ‘Fight or flight’ is a chain reaction triggered in the brain that in turn enables the body to mobilise a lot of energy rapidly in order to respond to threats to survive. But we also often experience fear that is far from life and death situations. Some of these fears may sound familiar and many of us may have experienced some of them at first hand. Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of relationships, fear of intimacy and fear of rejection are just a few examples. US President Franklin Roosevelt once famously said, “The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Fear can trigger a series of unpleasant physical symptoms such as a racing heartbeat, tight chest, shallow breathing, churning stomach, dizziness, palpitations, cold sweat and muscles weakness. Some people become so overwhelmed by fear and as a result want to avoid situations that might make them frightened or anxious. But fear does not have to rule one’s life; we can learn techniques and strategies that help us deal with fearful situations.
How can I help myself? Whatever it is that scares you, there are ways to help you cope with your fear.
Connect with others. Team up with someone you can talk to about what scares you. This ‘someone’ could be a partner, a friend, a family member, a qualified therapist, a support group in your area or even an online support forum. Sometimes people find it easier to open up to someone they don’t know.
Note your fears. Keep a daily record of situations you fear and note any potential triggers. Try to learn more about your fear or anxiety and become aware of when it happens and what happens.
Exercise. Start to introduce some regular exercise into your daily routine. Exercise can trigger brain chemicals that improve your mood. Exercise also needs concentration, and this can distract your mind away from fear and anxiety.
Lear to relax. Learning relaxation techniques can help with the physical and emotional feelings of fear. It can also help to break the cycle of fear.
Look after your body. Many people turn to alcohol to self-treat fear with the idea that it will make them feel better, but all that is achieved is the creation of another problem. The after-effects of alcohol can make you feel even more afraid or anxious.
Face your fear. Avoiding fearful situations only makes them even scarier. Whatever your fear, if you face it, it should start to fade and diminish.
Control your thoughts. Reframing one’s thoughts in a more positive way will significantly improve one’s strength in light of difficulty. Visualise what you would like to happen, rather than continuously worry about what you fear.
Know when to seek help. There is no need to suffer in silence. Fears can be controlled and eliminated and complementary therapies can be very effective for people with anxiety issues, including Counselling or Hypnotherapy. Talking therapies such as counselling offer practical steps in helping overcome fears. Fear is often a learned behaviour and Hypnotherapy is a valuable tool in finding the causal event and helps remove or overcome such futile behaviours in a safe and natural way.
Please feel free to contact us to find out more how we can help you overcome fears.
Angela Winterton Dip.Hyp, MHS, GQHP,GHR reg., NRH, Dip.CP,MCS Acc, Dip.SMC
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Psychotherapist, Aspired Therapies
Tel: 01597 850014