Why change is so difficult

Posted on April 16th 2015

About me, Angela Winterton, Aspired Therapies

Many of us think about changes we’d like to make in our lives. Let’s face it … change is hard. It really is, as it disrupts our equilibrium and anyone who has ever made and broken a New Year’s Resolution can appreciate the difficulty of behaviour change.  In fact, an astounding 80 per cent of New Year’s resolutions fail within the first week. Why? Because behavioural change is hard.  Small changes are hard and big changes are even more difficult. Whatever goals we want to achieve will invariably require making some kind of modifications and there is no single solution that works for everyone.

While it might seem very obvious, successful change requires one to be ready to change. According to research, people only change when it is in their best interests to do so. For someone to truly make a change, they need to see that the benefits of a new behaviour far outweighs maintaining old behaviour – in other words, to make a change, you need to believe it is worth it. Otherwise, why bother?

Change is not an event with an exact start and stop point; it’s a process and people often talk about change as a journey. German philosopher Count Hermann once wrote: “The shortest path to oneself leads around the world.”

There is a host of reasons why change can be so difficult:

  • We try to make too many changes all at once
  • We set our goals too high
  • We are reminded of past failures
  • We fear that all the effort may not be worth it in the end
  • We lack the necessary resources to make the change

Change can happen. To make lasting changes, one will need to tap into one’s inner power, passion and purpose.

 Tips to make changes easier:

  • Only change when you’re ready to.
  • Weigh up the pros and cons.
  • Be realistic. Set yourself goals that stretch, but don’t strain.
  • Remember that relapse into your old behaviour is not failure.
  • Get support, either from friends, family or a professional therapist.

If you would like help with making changes, contact Angela.

angela@aspiredtherapies.co.uk

Angela Winterton Dip.Hyp, MHS, GQHP,GHR reg., NRH, Dip.CP,MCS Acc, Dip.SMC
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Psychotherapist, Aspired Therapies

www.aspiredtherapies.co.uk